“Well, I do think someone might have arranged about our meals,” said Digory.
“I'm sure Aslan would have, if you'd asked him,” said Fledge.
“Wouldn't he know without being asked?” said Polly.
“I've no doubt he would,” said the Horse (still with his mouth full). “But I've a sort of idea he likes to be asked.”
(C.S. Lewis, The Magician’s Nephew)
In the account of Israel traveling through the wilderness from Egypt to the Promised Land, there are many times when they complain that they have no food or water (in Exodus chapters 15–17, for example). I have tended to read this, roll my eyes and say, “Stop complaining! Clearly God is taking care of you.” But here’s the thing: they actually didn’t have food or water when they complained. As they traveled, they saw their water run out, got thirsty, and panicked.
I am running down a street without a sidewalk early on a Saturday morning. I would not be doing this but for my friend Chris, who has exhorted me come along with him on this three-mile run. I do not usually run, nor do I get up early when I don't have to go to work. But I know it will be good for me, and I told Chris I would be there, so I am there. Upon arriving at the starting point, I found that two other men would be running with us.
In my previous posts about the church's relationship to its unmarried members, I pointed out problems with only some cursory examples of fixes. It doesn't take much to point and yell—it takes a great deal more effort to find answers and even more to implement them. Thus, in this final article, I am humbly offering some suggested solutions.
The first problem I noted was that singleness is treated as a problem (curable only by marriage). The second problem is that singles are considered to be morally, responsibly, and fiscally inferior to married people. Both attitudes minimize the gifts and talents that singles can use with much greater freedom than their married counterparts. Church leadership and lay members sometimes require a gentle reminder of the work they did for the Lord before they were married, as well as the feelings they had during those times.